You may feel great right now. You’re in a rehab, or actively attending fellowship meetings for an addiction. Everything is on the up and up, so you ask, why do I need a sponsor? People in recovery can at first be in a bubble. They don’t expect things to get harder, but often hard times or awarenesses follow euphoria and moods can shift. A sponsor is your really reliable insurance policy, and a resource for wisdom and guidance. Sponsors are there for you for the good and difficult times.
Choose a sponsor who has considerable recovery time, and one you sense has obtained a strong balance with their approach to sober living. It’s suggested that your sponsor has gone through the 12 Steps. They should be the same gender as you to prevent a conflict of the heart. For example, a gay man could have a woman sponsor, and a lesbian could have a straight man.
To ensure a good fit, take your time choosing a sponsor. Some sponsors can be heavy-handed and strict. Others may offer more compassion. One of the most important factors when choosing a sponsor is to make sure they are not squeamish. You want someone who will tell you the truth and not mince with words.
Sponsors may be active in service work, and others not have the time, but still volunteer when possible. You never have heard them whine or complain. Sponsors that have more to offer are ones who are at ease in life, laugh often and are confident with themselves and always take their sobriety seriously. They are good role models.
One last important thing to know is the person you ask may say they can’t be your sponsor. If this happens, it’s normal to feel disappointed, but don’t turn a no into a rejection. The person you asked may already be a sponsor to one or more people, or have other valid reasons for saying no. Keep looking. There’s probably someone to ask that you’ve overlooked.
Serenity Oaks provides an intensive 5 week program to support your sobriety and recovery from addiction. We aim to provide a space where you can find out how and why you have struggled with addiction. Our therapeutic and medical support are just one of the tools we provide to help set you up for success in recovery. Call us to find out how we can help you get started: 844-396-8526.