Terminally unique is a term used in 12-Step programs. You might hear the definition of terminally unique at a meeting when an addict describes themselves as “an egomaniac with an inferiority complex”. You can believe that you are the exception to the rule or that the rules do not apply to you at all. The fact that you have not been to jail, you were not homeless, or that the consequences of your actions have not made you hit your bottom, can make you feel as though you are not as bad as other addicts. Terminally unique can also refer to when you come to a meeting and you automatically think that nobody could ever understand your problems or compare to the severity of what you did in your addiction.
Terminally unique is a state of egotism and narcissism. This behavior isolates you from the people who can most likely give you the support that is necessary in recovery. Terminal uniqueness is a form of self-sabotage that puts up walls around you. You can also use this as a reason to avoid having to embark on any sort of recovery by being terminally unique. Having this type of attitude keeps you from finding true progress because it makes you question how you could possibly relate to something that is so different.
The message given in meetings is to “find the similarities rather than the differences”. Putting your terminally unique status aside could be a breakthrough for you in your recovery. Your situation may be different from than others, but most likely someone has felt the same way you have felt at some point. If you link into the aspect of having the same feelings, it could be all the difference you need to grow in your recovery.
Although it is special to just be unique, is it worth the life you are living today to separate yourself from the group by being terminally unique? Is it worth resisting help for your terminal uniqueness? Changing from terminally unique into willing can save you in recovery.
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