When we get on the path of the recovery, we must start looking at what is really going on inside us. Many of us can make our outsides look great when all along we are really feeling emotionally bankrupt on the inside. Most of the time we can hide fear, disappointment, and rejection rather nicely although it most likely will come out in other areas. Continuously suppressing our feelings can be a means to cope in situations we feel unequipped for.
We might be yelling at our kids because we feel inadequate at work. We could cut someone off in the parking lot when we are driving when our insurance company charges us an arm and a leg to be covered with their policy. If we are jealous of someone else’s good fortune, we might gossip and tear them down. Whatever the situation may be, often the action does not correlate with what the root cause of what our intentions really are.
One of the main ways we can grow in our recovery is to assess the real reasons for our emotional tantrums. Finding our part in situations like these and then clearing them up with the appropriate people, can enlarge our emotional growth. There are not too many people that like continuously cleaning up the messes they cause. In recovery, we can keep our side of the street clean to keep progressing forward. Once we have tried to resolve these issues, hopefully we have learned our lesson to stop the behavior that continues to create problems for us.
“Continue to take personal inventory, and when you are wrong promptly admit it.”
Step 10 in 12-Step programs refers to spot checking our resentments, selfishness, dishonesty, and fear. These are the things that keep us from growing in our recovery, but are the very thing that can help us change our perspective to keep us accountable to our recovery. If we keep current and settle problems that arise from these bedevilments, we are sure to make monumental adjustments in our lives.
Bill Wilson wrote on page 92 in the book, Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions, “It is a spiritual axiom that every time we are disturbed, no matter what the cause, there is something wrong with us.”
By incorporating this sentence into our recovery, we can continue to see our part to make sure that we are doing the right thing without worrying about what others are doing.
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