When we are new to sobriety we may be in a vulnerable place. We walk or collapse into the unknown. The unknown is full of questions, concerns, fears and hope. It is whatever we make it. When we stay in the present, however, we only have to think about the here and now. Be Here Now is an expression derived from a book written in 1971 by the Western-born yogi and spiritual teacher, Ram Dass. Be Here Now is a good reminder for those of us new to sobriety, and really for anyone seeking a calmer life.
Being vulnerable and managing our sobriety, whether we are getting help through a fellowship program such as AA, or going to an out- or inpatient rehab, can be challenging. Incidences arise for which we don’t or can’t understand. We could be overwhelmed by them and find it difficult to focus on a solution, course of direction or ascertain the truth.
You can conduct a reality check with someone you trust. All you have to do is tell them what happened and your perceptions about the incident. They will give you their take on the situation. That’s all. It may be what you perceived to be the truth of the matter, or something you don’t want to hear. It is up to you to sort out the truth. By asking for help, you are taking care of yourself. Maintaining self-care is an extremely important goal in recovery.
If you are new to a rehab, you may not have developed any bonds with others in recovery. Since you will be assigned a therapist, you can do the reality check with them. The therapist is not going to give you feedback, like your fellow patient did. Rather, they are going to engage with you, so you can come with an answer on your own. The difference between doing a reality check with a friend or a therapist has to do with your need for privacy and safety.
As you progress with your recovery, you may become less vulnerable, and gain confidence in yourself. Soon you will likely be more capable of conducting your own reality checks and reaching your own conclusions.
“The truth does not change according to our ability to handle it.”—Flannery O’Connor
If you someone you know is struggling with drugs and alcohol, Serenity Oaks Wellness Center can help to get you sober. Our 12-Step aspects and holistic therapy can show you how to adorn your soul in recovery.
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