The most common way that a relationship is founded upon is through mutual respect and authentication. Over time the relationship can change and bring about incompatibility which may lead to toxicity in the relationship. You could already be in a toxic relationship and not be willing to admit it because you do not wish to be alone or have not even realized that your relationship has turned toxic.
You cannot stay sober.
Not that the other person is making you drink or use, but the ups and down of your relationship pulls on your heartstrings making you want to be under the influence rather than feel upset. You may think it is much easier to get drunk or high than have to deal with the pressures of the relationship particularly if you are not getting any support to stay sober anyway.
You cannot get along.
If you are fighting more than you are talking, this could be a definite sign that the relationship is toxic. Everyone has conflict with each other occasionally. You would not be human without having emotion now and again. The difference is that if most of your time is spent arguing or putting each other down in person or on text, then you may need to ask yourself if this is the best way to spend your time in a relationship.
You cannot be trusted.
Trust is a huge part of a relationship and if you are not getting any from the other person, then this could be a huge red flag. When you are constantly being undermined in your relationship with what you are doing and where you have been, especially when you have done nothing wrong, you are backing yourself into a corner of fear that is hard to get out of over time.
You cannot be forgiven.
Someone that holds a grudge is someone that just will not let things go. Instead of trying to work things out, they would rather punish you then make things right. A grudge holder may appear to be offended and try to make you feel bad in return because they think that will make them feel better although it just makes them hold on to resentment even longer.
Being alone might be a better choice for you if you are in a toxic relationship because the negativity will infiltrate your entire being and trickle into other areas of your life including your job or other relationships. Being in a healthy relationship is what you should strive for because treating others the way that you want to be treated should go both ways.
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